“Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts….”     Colossians 3: 15

I’ve come to believe that there is no woman more attractive to her husband than a woman at peace.  A woman at peace is able to enjoy life, be present with her man, and handle the stresses that come with each day.   A woman at peace sets the tone for her whole home, changing the atmosphere around her to one of peace and contentment.   A woman at peace becomes a place he can let down and just be, without walking on eggshells in his own home.  I wanna be the kind of wife that he finds attractive, that he enjoys being with, that he  actually wants to come home to!

So how do we become women of peace, attractive to our men?   If you’re like me, I’ve tried the whole, “take a deep breath…  count to ten…  get it together…. come on, Lori, BE AT PEACE!!  AGGHH!”  Usually doesn’t work too well for me!   I recently came upon a truth in scripture that seems to be a whole lot more effective:  Colossians 3 tells me to “Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts….”  Ok, so I’d LOVE for peace to rule…. how do I do that?

1. I see first and foremost it is not MY peace, but the peace of Christ that can rule over the rest of my emotions and thoughts!  One of the direct results of His Spirit living in me is that he brings me HIS peace.  “My peace I give you, my peace I leave with you.  Do not let your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.”  (John 16)     “The fruit of (or direct result of ) the Spirit is love, joy, PEACE, …”  (Galatians 6)   It is one of His great gifts to us, not something I can produce, but something I can receive when I connect with my Jesus each day.  The one thing I CAN do is to take the time to look into His eyes & be filled again with his great love, and His peace just washes over me like a wonderful wave!  When I see again how much He loves me and how much He has done to make me His own, all the things that were robbing me of peace seem to diminish, seem so small in comparison; they ‘grow strangely dim’ in the light of His glory and grace!

Sometimes I forget that the best way to be a great wife is to first be a great daughter.  The best way to be the kind of wife he wants to come home to is to be the kind of wife that meets with my Father before he comes home!!    Funny, isn’t it, that I spend so much time trying to look attractive for my man – from the hours I spend trying to dress well, eat well, fix the hair well… to all the hours gazing in the mirror, when just a few moments gazing in Jesus’ eyes will make me more beautiful than all the rest put together!  The peace of Christ will rule over all other emotions and lies when I take the time to find my peace in the Prince of Peace.  He alone fills me and satisfies my heart.  Then I have a heart that is full to go and love the man who comes home to me.

There is much more in this passage that Father is using to teach me and transform me into a woman of peace. More to come in my next blog.  For now, it’s peace-giving to remember the simplicity of ‘One Thing” living:   Jesus is my one thing.  Seeking Him and abiding in Him is the One priority of every one of my days.  He alone makes me the woman He created me to be:  beautiful, joyful, peaceful.  The rest will take care of itself.   I really wanna be the kind of wife my husband wants to come home to:  which will happen when I’m the kind of wife that finds her peace in Jesus before he comes home!