Sex is God’s great wedding gift.

God created this wonderful gift for the first man and woman, and every couple since who is joined in a covenant of marriage, having promised “till death do we part.”

God created sex to join a man and a woman together PERMANENTLY, as ONE, a beautiful physical representation of what is also happening spiritually and emotionally – forever.

God designed the body of a man and the body of a woman to fit together perfectly, and to enjoy the deepest of pleasures and joys as they give their entire beings to one another.

What a good Father we have!!      What a gift He has given us!

Therefore, we are to receive it, and enjoy it, and cherish it as holy and sacred – as He is.

“But at the beginning of creation God made them male and female.  ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’  So they are no longer two, but one.  Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”     -Jesus,   Mark 10: 6-9

God has joined a man and a woman together by making them one by His gift of sex.

God also designed sex for the purpose of reproduction.  A seed planted in the ground will result in reproducing the fruit from which the seed came.  Another seed bearing plant will be born.  The seed of a man planted in the fertile soil of a woman’s womb will also reproduce another seed-bearing man or woman, who will grow up to reproduce more…

Therefore, it was God’s intention that the uniting of a man and woman as one in sex will also produce a result, or fruit, reproducing more of their kind.  The spiritual analogies abound.  Jesus taught:

 “I am the Vine, you are the branches.  As you live in union with me as your source, fruitfulness will stream from within you . . . If you live in life-union with me and if my words (seed) live powerfully within you – then you can ask whatever you desire and it will be done.  When your lives bear abundant fruit, you demonstrate that you are my mature disciples who glorify my Father!”        John 15: 5, 7-8 TPT. 

 This helps us understand the analogy from Ephesians 5, when marriage is said to represent the union of Christ and His bride, the church.  (dots starting to connect here?)  Our union with Jesus is also to reproduce others of the ‘Christ-kind’.

The point?   This is serious business!   This is us getting to be a part of something much bigger than ourselves!  This is us married people receiving the great privilege of showing the world Who God is,  how God loves,  and what God’s faithful COVENANT looks like:  through the way we love and become one and remain faithful in marriage.   Through the way we honor each other and reproduce babies and enjoy sex in our marriages.

“Flee sexual immorality.  All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body.  Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God?  You are not your own;  you were bought at a price.   Therefore, honor God with your body.”  1 Corinthians 6: 18-20

Now that we have been made one with Christ, we are one forever, a part of him, like a head and a body are one person.   Jesus will NEVER separate from us or be unfaithful to us by leaving us.  Our spiritual union with him is to be permanent.

In the same way, the uniting of a man and a woman in sexual union is to make them one:  permanently.  Never to separate.

Therefore, to unite ourselves in a sexual union with ANY other person outside the marriage covenant between a man and a woman, is outside God’s purposes and intentions for sex.  This is what the bible calls sexual immorality.

“Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure (NIV), for God will judge sexual immorality in any form, whether single or married.”    Hebrews 13: 4 TPT

SINGLE PEOPLE:  Sex is like glue that permanently BONDS.   Picture the man and the woman as two paper plates.  If you GLUE two paper plates together,  and make them one, it is to be permanent.  What happens if, after being glued together, you try and separate the two paper plates?

This is exactly what happens to two people and their hearts when they have sex outside of the marriage covenant and then are pulled apart.  Because the sexual bond was not DESIGNED to be broken, there will be ripping of hearts, much pain, and much brokenness.   Part of the one will always remain or be a part of the other, much like the ripped piece of the paper plate will stick to and remain with the other even as they are ripped apart.   Neither will be whole or healthy now, as they have given part of themselves to the other & cannot get it back.

When God tells us in his word to flee from sexual immorality, (any sex outside of marriage), it is because He loves us so deeply and knows that we will be hurt/ broken.  He knows that a sexual union WILL produce fruit:  and not always good fruit.  Sometimes the fruit will be broken hearts and fractured souls, sometimes disease, and  sometimes pregnancy before a covenant marriage and family are established.

Because our loving God is the Redeemer, and Jesus has purchased our forgiveness, God can enter any scenario at any point along our journeys and redeem:  bring good out of it, IF we begin to trust Him enough to start living our lives in the safety of His ways.  He is always there to begin the healing process when we confess and surrender to Him!  Hear that again:  for those who wish they had heard this message years ago or had made different choices than you did, you can start today!  God is the God of second chances, new beginnings, and can make ANY of us new and pure and holy when we confess (agree with God what is and what was not his best for us) and receive His forgiveness!  He cleanses ALL of us from ALL unrighteousness! See I John 1: 9

But Singles, our hope in this particular blog is to cast such a vision for the TRUTH and REAL PURPOSES for God’s wonderful gift of sex, that you will trust Him and choose to follow his intentions!  The fruit of THAT decision – to wait and save sex until you are married – will be faithfulness and perseverance and self-control , and will result in you living in freedom, with no guilt & no shame & no brokenness & no regrets…. and ready to give yourself entirely to the one who loves you enough to commit to you for life in the covenant of marriage.

Guys:  any woman you date is someone else’s wife (unless and until she becomes yours in holy matrimony);  therefore, treat her as someone else’s.   She is not yours.   Honor her.  Fight to protect her.  And honor yourself by saving your whole self for the one you will be united with for life in marriage.

Girls:  it’s already been said.  If a guy ever asks you to give yourself to him without him giving himself to you in marriage, flee.  End it.  You want a godly man who loves you more than his own fleshly desires.   You are worth it, girls.   And God’s glory is worth it.  And you can honor God and yourself by saving yourself for the man who will be your husband forever.

Truth:  There’s no greater gift you could give each other on your wedding night than to be able to say, “Here I am.   All of me.  I fought for this and saved myself completely for you.”     (even if you start today….)

Sex is God’s great wedding gift.   You are God’s great wedding gift to each other.  

(Tomorrow we will look at this some more;  sex in marriage is AWESOME…… See you then!)